Facts about about BDSM that you won’t learn about on” Fifty Shades of Grey”

  1.  Here’s what BDSM really stands for: (B&D) bondage and dominance, (S&M) sadism and masochism. The terms are lumped together that way because BDSM can be different things to different people.
  2. It doesn’t always involve sex, but can.  Most people think that BDSM is always tied to sex– and while it can be for some, others draw a hard line between the two. Both are bodily experiences that are very intense and sensual and cause a lot strong feelings in people who practice them but they are not the same thing.
  3. Theres is nothing inherently wrong or damaged with people if their into it. This is one of the most common and frustrating misconceptions about BDSM. It isn’t something that emerges from abuse or domestic violence. It is personal desire and it creates deep emotion.
  4. Know that you can always say no.  A lot of people start out thinking it its all or nothing  especially if you’ve only been with one partner. You don’t always have to be a submissive or via versa. There are different levels and consent is a requirement in BDSM.  “Red” means stop.
  5. “Fifty Shade of Grey” is frowned upon in the BDSM community. If you find yourself in a BDSM dungeon, don’t mention the book. While some people appreciate it spurred more interest in kink and may have made it less stigmatizing, others take issue with the abuse, unhealthy relationship it portrays  and the seriously unrealistic scenes. All in all, it is not an accurate representation of the BDSM community.
  6. Its not all whips and chains  all the time — or ever, if that’s not your thing. Sure some S&M enthusiatics might have these in their arsenal, but its definitely not everyones cup of kink. Some people go for r whats called “sensual dominance”  or light BDSM and more erotic.
  7. BDSM encounters are called scenes. Since its not always about inyimacy, you wouldn’t necessary say you ‘ hooked up ‘ with some one after a BDSM expert. instead thesis are called scenes.